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Relationships Back to top To ask your question fill in the Feedback Form (your real name and contact details will NOT be given out) | |
| Kerry writes: |
My boyfriend is 17 and I am 14. We have been going out for 6 weeks. He thinks it is okay to sleep together, but I dont think I am ready. I do love him, and I dont want to lose him. Some of my friends are sleeping with their boyfriends. Should I sleep with him ?
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| Our Advice: |
Kerry. The first thing is that it is against the law for a person under 16 to have sex. However, lets be realistic not everyone waits until they are 16. Your boyfriend is much older than you (the difference in ages between 14 and 17 is bigger than say between 25 and 28) and you have already said you dont feel ready. I really think you already know that for you the time is not right. It would be very sad if you had sex just because your friends are, or your boyfriend wants to. It must be a mutual thing where both of you are ready. It may not be trendy to talk about the age of consent but it there for a reason, it tries to give guidance to young adults. At 14 you are a young woman and under a lot of pressure to conform to how your friends think you should act, and dress and socialise. Always listen to your inner voice, the one that questions your actions. Make sure that the decisions you make are your own, and you are not just going along with the crowd. It might be helpful if you talked about your problem to an older female maybe your mother, an aunt or (even) a teacher. If you wanted to speak to someone in confidence then get in touch with Unit 10 (01246 236080 ). |
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Drugs Back to top To ask your question fill in the Feedback Form (your name and contact details will NOT be given out) | |
John writes: |
My best friend is taking ecstacy at night clubs regularly. He says its okay if you drink lots of water, but with the stories in the paper of people dying I am worried. I have stopped taking E, but my mate wont - is it safe ? |
| Our Advice: | I will not go into the drug debate. The law is quite clear - nicotine and alcohol are the only allowed recreational drugs. The problem all people take when using recreational drugs is where have they come from. Are they contaminated, do they contain what they are meant too ? Each time someone takes a pill (or half a pill !) of unknown origin they risk their life. My advice is to not take any drug unless medically prescribed. For fuller advice on drugs try contacting the Community Drugs Team 01246 277388. They can provide with advice and leaflets which may help. If recreational drugs are to become safe then the law must be changed and more research into the effects of recreational drugs undertaken. Do yourself and your friend a favour, party as much as you like but dont risk your lives for a quick buzz. Remember also that alcohol and nicotine are addictive and potentially leathal as much as any other drug !!! |
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| Steve writes: |
I think I have failed my exams, I wanted to go to university - what are my options. |
| My advice is: |
You need to see a careers advisor. Your school or college will have one. Alternatively go the library and use the TAP (Training Access Point). You could re-take, take a year out then re-take. Get an apprenticeship. Remember that you do not have to follow the school - college - university route. Some people dont go to university until they are in their 30s. University is not the be all and end all of life. You dont say what career you had in mind - find out about all routes to it. Often there are different ways of achieving the same goal and there is a lot of help out there to get you where you want to be. If you are still stuck ring Chesterfield College and ask to speak to one of their advisors - I am sure they will be able to get in touch with the right people. |